Wishful thinking is not idealism. It is self-indulgence at best and self-exaltation at worst. In either case it is usually at the expense of others. In other words it is the opposite of idealism.
Think of and look at your work as though it were done by your enemy. I you look at it to admire it you are lost.
It is better to have loved and lost than never to have lost at all.
My work always tried to unite the true with the beautiful but when I had to...